I don’t know about you, but the thought of finding an Alzheimer’s patient at the bottom of the basement stairs really worried us. Then, I saw the perfect solution in a friend’s house. She used a childproof doorknob cover on her utility room door, her bathroom doors and her basement door. The children couldn’t open the doors and get into dangerous situations. We tested one of the covers on our basement door and it worked. William was frustrated that he couldn’t get the door open, but safe.
* I do not recommend using a childproof doorknob cover on your front door. If there’s a fire or other emergency, people need to get our fast.
If the Alzheimer’s patient you are caring for uses an electronic blanket, you may want to think about replacing it with a normal blanket. A UK newspaper, The Mercury, reported:
A PENSIONER with Alzheimer’s disease suffered serious burns after leaving her electric blanket on throughout the night, an inquest heard.
Instead of an electric blanket or electric heating pad, consider using a hot water bottle. This way, there is no way for Alzheimer’s patients to change settings or turn a warming device on and burn themselves.
Welcome to the 61st edition of the Carnival of Healing. I’m so excited to be hosting this celebration of health at Life Without Memories. Take some time to wander through our fairways and peer into the tents – this carnival is completely free.
Since this is a blog about Alzheimer’s and dementia, I thought you’d like to start with posts relating to these diseases. We’ll begin with Mary Emma Allen, who presents Alzheimer’s & the Shrinking Brain Observed, which is posted at Alzheimer’s Notes.
Next, Kenton Whitman presents a very different viewpoint of Alzheimer’s disease – kentonwhitman.com Zen-Inspired Self Development posted at A New Perspective on Alzheimer’s.
Now, let’s travel on to other health related issues. We’ll begin with RDoctor’s guide to Hip Fractures, which is written by Dr. Kavokin. Get a basic overview of this common problem for the elderly and take some quizzes about hip fractures.
Dr Kavokin also presents Nursing Professor. Kim McAllister, posted at RDoctor Medical Portal. Take a look at this interview with real life ER nurse.
Vreni Gurd presents Eat – Food, our raw material posted at wellness tips. The food we eat today turns into our cells tomorrow. Do you want your heart muscle to be made out of those cheese puffs you ate today? Eat quality food.
(I must say that the cotton candy and funnel cake vendors no longer looks quite so tempting. Apple, anyone?)
Now, let’s take a moment to look at some more relaxing and uplifting posts. After all, this is a carnival!
Surfer Sam’s Magazine offers a fantastic post called Step by Step Meditation. You can discover what meditation is and why it can be a good idea. For a caregiver, some serious stress busting can always be helpful.
For a look at how a finch trapped in the house helped a man discover he needed to learn about trusting God instead of spending his time struggling, take a look at this inspirational post at Evolving Times – Surrendering to Freedom: Stepping into Grace.
Edward Mills also presents When You Hear A Hawk Step Back For A Different Perspective posted at Evolving Times.
Mental Health Source Page presents My Two Selves posted at Jane Chin PhD. Just in case you’re tempted to rush past her blog, let me give you a glimpse inside:
A Strong Woman knows She is Beautiful and Makes No Excuses for it. She works hard at being beautiful inside and out.
If you haven’t taken a moment to count your blessings this week, you may want to take a close look at the next carnival booth. Patricia presents How To Develop An Attitude Of Gratitude posted at A Better You Blog.
For a look at what happens when one woman inspires thousands to work for a change, you won’t want to miss this next post. Bobbarama presents an in depth look at the Susan J. Korman walk for a cure for breast cancer. Zero to 60 in three days posted at bobbarama.com.
Thanks to Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul for hosting last week’s edition, the Carnival of Healing #60. Don’t forget to visit next week’s carnival at Wisdom of Healing.
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I am excited to report that I will be hosting the next Carnival of Healing on November 25th. If you blog about a health related topic, please join us by submitting your entry here. I’m looking forward to seeing all of the wonderful entries. Anything dealing with healing, healthy living, self empowerment, and spirituality is welcome, but since it is close to Thanksgiving, I’d be delighted to see posts on giving, thankfulness, etc.
So, you’re going to hire someone to help take care of an Alzheimer’s or dementia patient. But what do you pay and do you have to give benefits? What about Social Security?
Most people hire caregiver helpers as contractors. This means the other person is not actually an employee and is responsible for taxes, Social Security, etc. You would need to send a 1099-MISC at the end of the year for tax purposes. You should check with a lawyer and your accountant to be sure this is the best alternative for you and to find out what you need to do to avoid having the IRS consider this person to be an employee.
(An easier alternative is to go through an agency, which deals with all of the paperwork. You pay the agency and the agency pays the employee.)
Now, on to how much you should pay. Expect to see fees anywhere from $8 and $15 an hour for someone to care for basic needs, such as feeding, bathing and diapering. If you need someone with a medical background, fees will be higher.
Before you agree to a salary, find out if your new helper expects to be paid for days he or she isn’t needed because of a hospital stay or holiday. Also, you should discuss transportation – whose car is the patient going to be transported to routine medical appointments in? Are you going to pay mileage if it is the helper’s car? Getting these issues taken care of now helps keep your new helper and you happy.
In Maryland, you can check records for the district and circuit courts yourself to do a preliminary criminal and credit screening. You can access those records through the Maryland court system or you can do an online court record search.
* Just be aware that you should request permission to do the background checks first and make sure you get that permission in writing. (Look for a generic employment application that has a background check notification on it.)
* Also, remember that this only covers Maryland courts. Someone who moved to the area recently could have a long rap sheet in another state and you wouldn’t discover any record of it. You should have a professional background check done on your final candidates.
* Driving violations are included and should be considered if the caregiver you are hiring is going to be transporting the patient to the doctor’s office.
* If you’re searching for records on a common name, your best bet would be to use a professional background screening company from the start. Most of these records don’t include birthdates or descriptions.
Sometimes you just can’t do it all. You have to work during the day or your own health isn’t that great and you need help. Before you call your local newspaper to place an ad that says “Caregiver wanted.” there are a few things you should know about hiring a caregiver.
First, just because someone’s working part time at the local nursing home, you can’t assume that person is a law abiding citizen. The nursing homes may say they are going to check criminal records, but many of them don’t. People have unknowingly hired drug dealers, thieves and other criminals that you wouldn’t want in your house, especially when you are leaving them alone with a relative who can’t tell you what’s going on.
Next, be sure you follow up on references. A lot of times, people don’t check references and you may just find that the reference that was given doesn’t recommend the person you are considering.
Finally, always ask for permission to run a criminal background check. Have people fill out a generic employment application, which should have a notice for them to sign about background checks. You can hire a company to do the checking for you.
The reason we’re making these suggestions? We learned the hard way. Thankfully, the only thing hurt was the patient’s checkbook, but it could have been much worse. When we followed these guidelines, we were able to hire a great caregiver.
When you are planning Thanksgiving crafts for Alzheimer’s patients, you will have to remember a few important guidelines. First, never choose a craft that has more than a few steps. Second, look for materials that are easy to use.
With that in mind, one popular Thanksgiving craft for Alzheimer’s patients is simply painting wooden shapes. Pumpkins, turkeys and cornucopias are all readily available at most craft stores. Use acrylic craft paints for easy clean up.
Another great craft idea is to create a collage. Magazines are filled with bright images that can be torn into interesting shapes. Write “Giving Thanks” or “Thanksgiving” in big letters on a piece of posterboard. The Alzheimer’s patient can cover the letters with the paper shapes to make a colorful word collage.
Do you have a favorite Thanksgiving craft idea to share? Please post your idea as a comment.
It can be a challenge to include Alzheimer’s patients in the holiday festivities. However, there are some simple, fun holiday activities that everybody can enjoy. A few of our favorites:
Memory – create your own memory card set. Using pairs of photographs or holiday images can make it fun for everyone. If you find that playing memory in the traditional way is to difficult, flip the cards over so they are all face up and let the Alzheimer’s patient simply match the pairs up.
Salt and Pepper – this game involves creating a list of familiar things that belong together. You can have various difficulty levels for different people. For example, Fred and Ginger or hot and cold. You say the first half of the pair and players have to come up with the other half.
Bingo – make your own cards using familiar images, such as cars and dogs. Use a simple grid with large squares so the game isn’t overwhelming.
Any favorites in your family?
It is hard to think about a future without your loved one. It is even harder to approach him or her about medical and burial wishes. While everyone should have a talk about these issues, it is even more important to find out what your relative with Alzheimer’s or dementia wants before it is too late for him or her to communicate important desires and wishes. When the time comes, you don’t want to compound your grief with worries over whether you should be choosing cremation or if the most expensive casket is really what your loved one would have wanted.
Don’t be afraid that you will seem greedy, selfish, or insensitive. Remember that you are actually having this difficult talk to be sure you are following your loved one’s wishes. If you take a few minutes to prepare for the talk ahead of time, you and your loved one can have a useful conversation that can actually leave him or her with a feeling of relief. Here are a few tips that can make the discussion easier:
* Make a list of topics to cover, but don’t push to get to them all if he or she becomes tired or upset. Suggest that you can talk again the next day.
* If your loved one doesn’t want to discuss certain topics with you, ask who he or she will feel comfortable talking to and help set up a meeting.
* Have all necessary forms ready so they can be filled out in the comfort of home before your loved one meets with his or her lawyer. There’s an excellent free resource that helps you remember all of the information and forms you’ll need, from living wills to who will take care of the pets at http://thefuneraldirectory.com/planityourway/.
* Be prepared for the fact that some people will not discuss death and financial arrangements, especially with their children. You may want to see if your parent is receptive to a discussion with a casual conversation opener. Some ideas:
- mention a friend who had no idea what a parent’s wishes were and ask if your parent has any specific instructions for you.
- say you came across an article online about being sure you know what your loved one wants and wanted to be sure your parent has a living will, a list of final bequests, etc.
- set an example and come to your parent with your wishes. For example, mention that you’ve purchased burial plots, made a will, or drew up a living will and you want to be sure he or she knows where to find all of the paperwork dealing with your wishes in case you become ill or die.
If anyone else has some hints about holding this difficult conversation, please feel free to share them.
